Video: How We Perceive Stress

Another piece of Upworthy gold. If you haven’t checked out this website, you should. Rather than waste time reading about spoon-fed ‘news’ items, and subscribing to the cult of celebrity… why not instead watch a couple of truly inspiring short videos that could quite literally open your eyes and show you the goodness in the world?

This little video explains how we perceive stress, what happens in the body under stress, and how the physical and chemical reaction can be changed completely – just by the way we choose to perceive stress. Powerful stuff.

VIDEO HERE.

 

Regina Brett: 49 life lessons

Stumbled upon another great little piece of writing the other day and it made me smile… link is here.

49 life lessons
1. Life isn’t fair, but it’s still good.
2. When in doubt, just take the next small step.
3. Life is too short to waste time hating anyone.
4. Don’t take yourself so seriously. No one else does.
5. Pay off your credit cards every month.
6. You don’t have to win every argument. Agree to disagree.
7. Cry with someone. It’s more healing than crying alone.
8. It’s OK to get angry with God. He can take it.
9. Save for retirement starting with your first paycheck.
10. When it comes to chocolate, resistance is futile.
11. Make peace with your past so it won’t screw up the present.
12. It’s OK to let your children see you cry.
13. Don’t compare your life to others. You have no idea what their journey is all about.
14. If a relationship has to be a secret, you shouldn’t be in it.
15. Everything can change in the blink of an eye. But don’t worry because God never blinks.
16. Life is too short for long pity parties. Get busy living, or get busy dying.
17. You can get through anything if you stay put in today.
18. A writer writes. If you want to be a writer, write.
19. It’s never too late to have a happy childhood. But the second one is up to you and no one else.
20. When it comes to going after what you love in life, don’t take no for an answer.
21. Burn the candles, use the nice sheets, wear the fancy lingerie. Don’t save it for a special occasion. Today is special.
22. Over prepare, and then go with the flow.
23. Be eccentric now. Don’t wait for old age to wear purple.
24. The most important sex organ is the brain.
25. No one is in charge of your happiness except you.
26. Frame every so-called disaster with these words: “In five years, will this matter?”
27. Always choose life.
28. Forgive everyone, everything.
29. What other people think of you is none of your business.
30. Time heals almost everything. Give time, time.
31. However good or bad a situation is, it will change.
32. Your job won’t take care of you when you are sick. Your friends will. Stay in touch.
33. Believe in miracles.
34. God loves you because of who God is, not because of anything you did or didn’t do.
35. Whatever doesn’t kill you really does make you stronger.
36. Growing old beats the alternative – dying young.
37. Your children get only one childhood. Make it memorable.
38. Read the Psalms. They cover every human emotion.
39. Get outside every day. Miracles are waiting everywhere.
40. If we all threw our problems in a pile and saw everyone else’s, we’d grab ours back.
41. Don’t audit life. Show up and make the most of it now.
42. Get rid of anything that isn’t useful, beautiful or joyful.
43. All that truly matters in the end is that you loved.
44. Envy is a waste of time. You already have all you need.
45. The best is yet to come.
46. No matter how you feel, get up, dress up and show up.
47. Take a deep breath. It calms the mind.
48. If you don’t ask, you don’t get.
49. Yield.

(recently updated when Regina turned 50)

50. Life isn’t tied with a bow, but it’s still a gift.

 

The paradox of our time in history (by Dr George Moorehead)

This seems to ring true more than ever. Something to think about as you decide how you want the next year of your life to pan out….

A wonderful Message by Dr George Moorehead:

The paradox of our time in history is that we have taller buildings but
shorter tempers, wider freeways, but narrower viewpoints. We spend more,
but have less; we buy more, but enjoy less. We have bigger houses and
smaller families, more conveniences, but less time. We have more degrees
but less sense, more knowledge, but less judgment, more experts, yet more
problems, more medicine, but less wellness.

We drink too much, smoke too much, spend too recklessly, laugh too little,
drive too fast, get too angry, stay up too late, get up too tired, read too
little, watch TV too much, and pray too seldom. We have multiplied our
possessions, but reduced our values. We talk too much, love too seldom, and
hate too often.

We’ve learned how to make a living, but not a life. We’ve added years to

life not life to years. We’ve been all the way to the moon and back, but
have trouble crossing the street to meet a new neighbor. We conquered outer
space but not inner space.

We’ve done larger things, but not better things. We’ve cleaned up the air,
but polluted the soul. We’ve conquered the atom, but not our prejudice.

We write more, but learn less. We plan more, but accomplish less.

We’ve learned to rush, but not to wait. We build more computers to hold
more information, to produce more copies than ever, but we communicate less
and less.

These are the times of fast foods and slow digestion, big men and small
character, steep profits and shallow relationships. These are the days of
two incomes but more divorce, fancier houses, but broken homes.

These are days of quick trips, disposable diapers, throwaway morality, one
night stands, overweight bodies, and pills that do everything from cheer,
to quiet, to kill.

It is a time when there is much in the showroom window and nothing in the
stockroom. A time when technology can bring this letter to you, and a time
when you can choose either to share this insight, or to just hit delete.

Remember; spend some time with your loved ones, because they are not going
to be around forever. Remember, say a kind word to someone who looks up to
you in awe, because that little person soon will grow up and leave your
side.

Remember to give a warm hug to the one next to you because that is the only
treasure you can give with your heart and it doesn’t cost a cent. Remember,
to say, “I love you” to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all
mean it. A kiss and an embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep
inside of you. Remember to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday
that person will not be there again. Give time to love, give time to speak
and give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

 

Suddenly wise!? Happy Birthday and all that jazz…

Ahhhh birthdays.. the first couple of these are so exciting you literally find yourself counting down the days until that magical 24 hours where you are queen for a day.. no chores, a pretty new dress, a fabulous shin-dig at your place – complete with themed cake and party games, presents galore and nobody can be mean to you because it’s your birthday.

Who wouldn’t look forward to that?

Sadly the more of these magical days we have under our belt.. the more the sparkle seems to fade.. the glitter rubs off.. the fairy lights sputter & die, and the more people seem to forget that it’s YOUR SPECIAL DAY.

How rude.

As an adult you’re conditioned to think that certain milestones bring particular accomplishments “oh I’m 18, I’m totally independent and adult now” …”wow, 21… I know myself so much better, and I’m so mature and in tune with what I want“… “Holy smokes! 25! Quarter century… I definitely need to have my shit together now” …and so on.. Until we reach that glorious milestone of the big three-o.

Duh duh duuuuuuh!

Surely by 30 years old, we have miraculously become the all-seeing, all-knowing goddess of wisdom, our career is thriving, our love life the envy of mere mortals, our friendships deep and fulfilling… surely by the time that clock strikes midnight, and we tick into OUR THIRTIES we’ll have all this stuff nailed, right? ….right?

If only it were that simple… if only we could magically acquire wisdom, knowledge, grace and poise simply by accomplishing the feat of making it to another birthday…. but the plain truth is that this stuff doesn’t come easy.. it’s the sum total of the living and the learning that we experience, and how we choose to process and proceed with that, which builds the person we are.

So as I head into another birthday, I’m quietly contemplating the ‘ageing process’, growing old disgracefully, milestones, the learning and the living that I have done up till now… and making some choices about the person I am choosing to be. (One of my favourite quotes being “life is not about finding yourself, life is about creating yourself”) and I would add to that: life is also about learning to love yourself.

It’s about appreciating the journey that lead you to today, and remembering that you are special all the time.. not just on that one day a year that you stop to think about it.

So for my birthday this year I plan on the pretty frock, no chores, and doing something that makes me feel like queen for the day… I shall walk around with a smile for a crown an proudly exclaim to all who will listen “it’s my birthday today!”