Some useful questions to ask yourself – goal setting

Before you embark on a goal setting session for the new year (or whenever) it’s really important that you first understand what a goal actually is.

As I mentioned previously – a goal is not a ‘should’ – a goal is something that is specific, measurable, attainable and EXCITING. When you set a goal for yourself – you should focus on what that goal looks like – how it sounds, feels, the emotions associated with attaining it – exactly how it feels when you are THERE. The images, words and emotions you associate with that goal are the things that will draw you back to your path when everyday life and challenges threaten to derail you.

So before you get started on setting those goals for yourself – it’s really important to do a little ‘soul searching’ – now that can sound pretty ‘new age’ and ‘wishy washy’ to some – but if you don’t delve inside yourself and understand what drives you – you’ll have a difficult time getting what you truely want out of life. (have you ever stopped to really think about it?)

A few useful questions that I ask my coaching clients are as follows:
What motivates you?
– How do you tend to sabotage yourself?
– How do you release stress?
– How do you enjoy yourself?
– What do you do to look after yourself on a regular basis?
– What have you given up on in life?
– When were you the happiest in your life? why?

These types of questions get you thinking about what is REALLY important to you. Often times we think (for example) “I want more money” but we don’t quantify what we really want.. ie:

Why do you want more money? What will having more money do to/for you?

Most of the time it’s not the money itself that we want – but the freedom that is associated to it. So by focussing on what we really want we are actually able to start setting goals and ACTION PLANS to get it.

Spend some time asking yourself questions like the ones above (and any others you can think of) write this stuff down – don’t just think about it – articulate yourself. It’s not enough to think about changing your life – you have to take steps to do that.. and it’s an amazing journey.

Appreciating what you have…

I do find it slightly ironic that if you’ve always been able to do something you can’t appreciate how good you are at it.

Take talking, for example.

Up until a few days ago I hadn’t appreciated just how much of a natural talent I had for articulating myself with the spoken word..

Add a bout of chronic laryngitis later and suddenly it’s a whole new ballgame!
I would settle for opening my mouth and having a recognisable sound come out at this point.. but it’s made me start thinking about a favourite phrase of mine:

“Have an attitude of gratitude”

So many people in my life use this phrase regularly and live this phrase every day.. and in my experience it’s those people that are the happiest. They take the time to count their many blessings, and in focussing on that – it grows.

So here’s a little exercise: Take a minute to mentally (or literally) create a list of the blessings you have.. [at the start of the exercise note how you feel] keep going through each of the things that you are greatful for in your life.. and then note how you feel when you are done.

Do this every day for a week. I guarantee that you will feel a shift, emotionally and spiritually – that you can use to move you forward in your life.

[You don’t even need to speak the words to make the change!]