Some useful questions to ask yourself – goal setting

Before you embark on a goal setting session for the new year (or whenever) it’s really important that you first understand what a goal actually is.

As I mentioned previously – a goal is not a ‘should’ – a goal is something that is specific, measurable, attainable and EXCITING. When you set a goal for yourself – you should focus on what that goal looks like – how it sounds, feels, the emotions associated with attaining it – exactly how it feels when you are THERE. The images, words and emotions you associate with that goal are the things that will draw you back to your path when everyday life and challenges threaten to derail you.

So before you get started on setting those goals for yourself – it’s really important to do a little ‘soul searching’ – now that can sound pretty ‘new age’ and ‘wishy washy’ to some – but if you don’t delve inside yourself and understand what drives you – you’ll have a difficult time getting what you truely want out of life. (have you ever stopped to really think about it?)

A few useful questions that I ask my coaching clients are as follows:
What motivates you?
– How do you tend to sabotage yourself?
– How do you release stress?
– How do you enjoy yourself?
– What do you do to look after yourself on a regular basis?
– What have you given up on in life?
– When were you the happiest in your life? why?

These types of questions get you thinking about what is REALLY important to you. Often times we think (for example) “I want more money” but we don’t quantify what we really want.. ie:

Why do you want more money? What will having more money do to/for you?

Most of the time it’s not the money itself that we want – but the freedom that is associated to it. So by focussing on what we really want we are actually able to start setting goals and ACTION PLANS to get it.

Spend some time asking yourself questions like the ones above (and any others you can think of) write this stuff down – don’t just think about it – articulate yourself. It’s not enough to think about changing your life – you have to take steps to do that.. and it’s an amazing journey.

…and that, my friends, was 2010

What a huge year – full of upheaval, change, challenge, laughter, sunshine, rain, music and lots and LOTS of cooking. I have some big plans for 2011 and it’s already shaping up to be an interesting year…

This is always a natural time for reflection and goal setting – and I would much rather people set goals, than berated themselves with ‘new years resolutions’

Why? Resolutions fall into the “Oh god, I should (start doing/stop doing) *insert action here* ”

A “should” isn’t a goal – it’s not exciting, tangible, realistic OR acheiveable.. and thats why people get so guilty when the ‘resolution’ falls to the wayside..

So this year, if you please, start setting some GOALS for yourself… (rather than slightly drunken promises!) and as a new year present I’m even going to post up some of my tips for effective goal setting…

But first: I am off to start cooking for a big boxing day picnic, and then we are off on our summer holiday road trip. Were the very tangible, exciting and realistic goals I have set for myself are: relaxation, much book reading, laughter, music, dancing, hugs, and feeling the sun on my face and a sea breeze in my hair.

•°o.O(happy holidays)O.o°•